7 TIPS ON HOW TO BECOME A GOOD STEP MOM

You love him and you want to be a good mom to his child, even though you are not going to be his or her biological mother, you still want to make the child love and respect you. This may be hard, because most of the kids do not except new parent easily. They overcome stress and their situation is also quite understandable. So be aware that if you love someone who is divorced and is a single parent then you must put much effort into everything. Is it possible for the step child to love the step parent more than his real one? Or is it possible to love her fully? The answer is definitely yes. It is quite possible if the step mother knows how to make the child love him or her.

1. Actually you are neither the mother nor the friend of the child. So at first it will really be hard to the child to accept you. Be tolerant and give him some time. He must understand what the relations with you are and how to develop them later.
2. Sometimes it is not even about you. The kid may say things that he or she does not like about you, but in reality it is not that much. Just the idea of having someone else in the family makes him be freaked out. You can be nice, fun and do your best but for the kid the fact of newcomer to the family may be stressful. So when he or she says something bad about you, just do not take it deeply, and do not bear a grudge.
3. Show your stepchild that you are really interested in his or her personality. Talk to the child, and find our all the preferences and hobbies. Once you have found them out, do not sit, but function. Do some activities that are related to his preferences. If he likes playing football for example, just dress like a football player and take him to play football outdoors. Watch him play and support him at the same time. I am sure he will like and appreciate that. After having some activity together, you both will feel that you slowly are getting closer and your relations have the potential to become better and stronger.
4. Love the child. You really have to love the child even if he or she is being rude to you. No matter what love the child as you own child and he or she will feel it. Every child needs love, and when they feel that they are really loved by someone they also start loving. If you just pretend loving the child, he or she will immediately feel it, because kids are brilliant at identifying fake. So just try to really love the child and treat him as your own one.
5. Show the child that he or she can have secrets with you. Once they are sure they can trust you, you will make friends for sure. Trust is really important for kids.
6. If there is the presence of biological mom in the child’s life, then be always nice to the real mother and never talk bad behind her back. Just the other way about. Always talk nice in front of the child about her or his real mother. Tell the child to respect and love her always. This is how he will start respecting you also and seeing your good qualities.

7. Show him that you accept his or her individuality and respect all the choices. You take into consideration his or her opinion. This is the point that the father may be overlooking, so you just let the child have own decisions.

In reality it is not really hard to become a good stepmother. You just have to be nice, loving and caring. Every child is in search of such qualities. Once they see these qualities n you they will be extremely nice to you and you will definitely be considered to be a good mom for the child. Once the child loves you, it you will get more chances to have dream relation with the father of the child and this is how you will have the best family.