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Before having their children, most of them men, who really want the baby, talk about how good they will be performing the role of the father, how good they will be taking care of baby, how right they will bring him or her up and so on and so forth. However, being a good dad is not easy. Actually it is one of the toughest jobs a person can have. It requires being responsible, caring, attentive, sometimes strict, sometimes emotional, loving but not spoiling, giving but also taking, talking but also listening, being tolerant and the list of duties goes on and on.
As you become a father, things that seem to be so easy in parenting and in being a good father, end up being so difficult, that you do not have a single idea what to do with so many things. Sometimes you even lose the right image of good father. So what is good father and the image of an ideal father? What does it look like? Let’s find it out for those who love their children and want to be the best fathers.
- The very first thing that children will appreciate at any age is devoting your time to them. You need to spend as much time as possible with your children, because that is how they feel that you need them. Try not to just spend being by their side, but also being involved in something with them, because that will make your relationship only better and with stronger ties.
- Treat them as someone who can do everything on her or his own and let them make their own decisions. This means that you have to tell them that are strong individuality at young age, and they are capable of making own decisions and they are also responsible for their decisions. At some point you may think that you let them make the wrong decisions, but no one tells you not to advice. You should always give your advice. This is the best way to show them that you believe in them and treat them as someone smart.
- Third point has not that much to do with kids from first sight, but if you look into the topic deeper, it has so much to do. You should always treat they mother with respect and care. Even if you are not a full family, even if you are divorced with their mother, still the care and respect will be appreciated. Otherwise, no matter what you do with them no matter how you treat them, if you do not respect their mother, you will definitely be considered not a good father. So do not spoil relations with their mom.
- The next point is also connected with their mother. It would be great if you put an effort and stayed a full family. If they see a full family, where father loves mother, they will definitely treat you as the best father ever. So if there are some family issues with your wife, always try to solve them and keep the family, instead of divorcing.
- Give them some freedom and independence. When you give children freedom and independence, they feel that you trust them from young age, and when you trust them they try not to disappoint. Also when they are used to freedom they will not do bad things without you being aware, while if you limit their freedom, they will always find ways how to cheat you and do their own things.
- Always listen to them. Being listened is very important for everyone, and especially for kids. That is also the best way to understand your child.
- Sometimes you should say “no”, but explain them why, so as they will not feel that you just do not love them, and just want to reject them. Always explain why you tell them firm “no”. In that case they will even love and appreciate your “no”.
These were the 7 most important tips how to become a perfect father for your children. Just give a try, because children are a treasure and they worth having the best father.
